At first glance, it sounds like a simple question:
“Do I like myself?”
But when we pause long enough to really consider it without rushing to say “of course!” or brushing it off with a joke, this question can stir something much deeper.
We’re used to measuring our worth through achievement, appearance, productivity, or how well we meet other people’s expectations. But liking yourself isn’t about perfection or performance. It’s about how you relate to yourself when things go wrong, when you feel uncertain, or when you’re simply being… you.
So, let’s sit with it for a moment:
Do you like yourself when you make a mistake?
When you’re not feeling productive?
When you feel left out, overlooked, or unsure of your next step?
These are the moments that reveal your true relationship with yourself.
Why This Question Matters
Liking yourself is the foundation of inner resilience. It influences the way you:
- Set boundaries.
- Make decisions.
- Speak up (or stay silent).
- Handle failure.
- Pursue joy without guilt.
And yet, so many women especially those in high-pressure, male-dominated industries like tech are constantly taught to improve themselves… but rarely to accept themselves.
So… How Do You Start Liking Yourself More?
Here are a few quiet, powerful steps:
🌿 Notice how you speak to yourself. Would you say those words to a friend?
🌿 Celebrate the small wins. You don’t need to wait for something big to feel proud.
🌿 Let go of the comparison trap. Your worth isn’t diminished by someone else’s success.
🌿 Honour your needs. Whether it’s rest, connection, or space – your needs matter.
🌿 Be with yourself. Not to fix or improve, but to simply be. That’s where self-connection starts.
A Coaching Invitation
If you’re not sure how to answer the question, “Do I like myself?” that’s okay. You don’t have to figure it out alone.
Coaching creates a safe, non-judgmental space to reconnect with who you are underneath the roles, pressure, and perfectionism.
Because you deserve a life built on self-trust, not self-doubt.
